Even though it appears that your h changed over night...it didn't happen that way. Your h began to change 18-24 months prior to the bomb drop. His changes were very subtle, but they were taking place.
I'm not surprised by the tattoo. Many get them or body piercings. Some even go as far as removing all of their body hair. Grab a chair on the sidewalk and observe. If he hasn't already started, he'll change his looks, the clothes he wears, music taste may change, as well as food and drinks. They will drive all exterior avenues in search of the illusive happiness pot of gold...but you know what? Happiness comes from within and it's going to take him a long time to discover this.
The nonsense will stop when he's hit the brick wall many times over and has finally come face to face w/his issues of long ago and he grows up. He needs to go back to the time that he was emotionally stunted and grow up.
Don't sign on for a second mortgage. Seek legal advice/guidance now and begin setting up your own accounts and start moving a little bit of money over whenever you can. Watch your credit card accounts as well.
The nonsense for you will stop when you detach and step away from his sandbox. Leave him to face the consequences of his actions.
Protect yourself and your assets as this is the first priority because he's gone on the Mother Ship for a while.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
