Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[Upwards]

Right now, you need to stop asking your H to make a decision. Your H knows your boundary. He has said that he will work on it (whatever that means).

Thank you 3BM

I just told him my boundary and he kept saying he doesnt want to make a decision incase its the wrong one. I've made clear that my boundary is to protect ME and its nothing to with him or OW, its for my own sanity and what he decides to do with that is completely up to him, I've told him I will respect whatever he decides but its unfair to keep saying he's going to cut contact then not do it. I needed to get my point across and now its been said i'll leave it, i'm certain he'll let me know if he does cut contact because he was quick enough to tell me that he'd ended "in person" contact with her.

The reason I lost it and had a go at him about not making decisions was because he said his fear is stopping him making any decisions, its not just in this situation its all across his life and its affecting me so much all across the board - I know I cant force him to take responsibility but I thought it about time someone told him to man up!! lol.

You can go NC. You can go dim. It is your decision. Just make sure this decision for you, not as a punishment to your H.

No its absolutely for me, I cant be close to him with the thought of him in contact with her in the back of my mind, it slowly eats away at me until I cant take it anymore... its not healthy & also not fair so I wont do it.

He's beginning to get his feelings back for me (by his own admission) and I think its scaring him, its probably wise to give him some space as well as give myself some space too.

I'm going to go dim for a few days, see how I feel then because right now I'm angry and cant really make a proper judgement - earlier I was ready to sign divorce papers haha.