Wife moved out to be with her Tour Guide Lover

[mishka422]

Oxford,

So your W is going to move back into the marital home and live separately from you. She is moving in with the understanding that this is a financial agreement only and she is still free to pursue whatever she chooses, with whomever she chooses, correct?

Boundaries.

That is all you can do at this point. You need to establish boundaries quickly in order to not only protect yourself but also to protect any salvageable piece of your M.

Get the book "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend and read it as quickly as you can before she is in your home.

You are going to need to sit down with her and discuss your boundaries before she fully moves in to the house.

These are NOT ultimatums. These are not limits on what she does. These are not controls put on her by you. These are YOUR boundaries. Lines that if crossed will violate your personal beliefs and establish distrust.

Simple? NO WAY! Necessary? Absolutely!

Establishing and enforcing boundaries in your life takes practice and diligence but can lead to a much better R in the end.

Good luck.

Remember. The only control you have at all is control of your own reactions and actions. She will do what she is going to do with no interference or help from you.