((((Upwards))) I know that this is hard and beyond frustrating.
Originally Posted By: Upwards
What my H decides doesn't dictate my happiness, but it does dictate whether we stay in contact or not & I want to know where I stand with this that's all. I don't see why I should ignore my boundary plus if I don't bring it up he will just carry on as he is and not make any decisions... can you see a pattern emerging here with decisions lol!
Right now, you need to stop asking your H to make a decision. Your H knows your boundary. He has said that he will work on it (whatever that means). So focus on your reality...H has not told you that he has cut all contact with OW. So what do you want to do with that reality...you focus on you until your H comes to you and proves that he has cut contact with OW. YOU get to decide what that looks like for you.
If you keep bringing it up, you are not going to get the answer that you want. It will frustrate you and hurt. There is no quick fix to this. So you let him go. I promise you that if he decides to cut ties and work on the M, he will come running to tell you.
You can go NC. You can go dim. It is your decision. Just make sure this decision for you, not as a punishment to your H.
