Being a woman, I think you should've handled it more softly. I would not have responded well to your approach. But, Starsky is great on this stuff so I generally defer to him. I guess it depends ultimately on what you want right now, more secure finances or a more secure W. I get the bind your in though. It does not seem like you can have both at the moment. Sorry if I was too harsh. I'm with you ultimately and support your efforts. . .
