Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[Upwards]

Upwards, I can tell you're angry. You have every right to be.

I think some of that anger comes from the feeling of trying to control your H and realizing that you really can't.

My anger is not about control, I absolutely cant control my H and wouldn't want to. My anger is about his complete refusal to take responsibility for his life & make some decisions about what he wants - he just ignores the problem and then feels sorry for himself when the same problems keep occurring, basically because of his complete refusal to deal with the problem and make the decisions he needs to make to move forwards.

You are tying your happiness to the actions of your H. He needs to decide what he's going to do.

What my H decides doesn't dictate my happiness, but it does dictate whether we stay in contact or not & I want to know where I stand with this that's all. I don't see why I should ignore my boundary plus if I don't bring it up he will just carry on as he is and not make any decisions... can you see a pattern emerging here with decisions lol!