Maybe I'm unsure about something. Do you still want to save your M or not?
If you throw your W under the bus in whatever way you plan to do it, it's not going to go well. You spend so much time talking about your W and what she's doing wrong and the A, you never did address in detail what things happened in the M that may have caused her to look elsewhere.
You have to understand that right now it's how your W chooses to live. Alot of it she's trying to justify to herself. But that phase fades out. It happens in the majority of the A's on here.
Your first priority should be your son. He needs you. Seeking revenge against your W isn't going to do that. Your son seeing your anger and retaliation is how he is going to grow to treat women. I'm not saying that you need to be a doormat, but you learn that it's not about you. This is something she has chosen to do. Forcing her to think otherwise is just going to make her cling even harder to OM.
Did you even read DB?
I love your insight. You see I want to save my marriage, I think having her move back in for an I house separation is the best thing.
The problem is I am confused. Mother other boards,I was on before I found this board,where all telling me to basically screw her over. But thats not me. I feel like I need to be the firm, stern grow up here. I know she's in a little girl fantasy. I believe let her think she is free love and peace and all that. But when OM goes back to Israel, I will have time to work on my marriage.
That is why I am so desperate for people to join my thread. I need a lot of help right now.
I really do!
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
