The thing is she is willing to go. Mainly as she said she needs to talk about how she is feeling. she was meant to attend a few on her own first and then we would decide if we could go together but he suggested that we attend together for this one to decide on what exactly his role will be and some ground rules etc. then she will attend on her own for a few or we can alternate. I was thinking of asking to see him in advance first to establish what exactly his aim is but I am wary that this might be viewed as manipulation by my W and I don't want that to happen
