Well, here's I see going to MC. A person, or couple, goes b/c they want help for their M problems....and basically want to save the M, and hopefully, have a better one.
When you have one spouse who is ready to walk out or has said they want a D, it makes things much more complicated, regarding counseling. If one spouse wants to save the M and the other doesn't, the only reason the walk-away S will even attend one session is either to give LBS final announcement of impending D, or be able to tell friends & family they even tried counseling and it didn't help, or like your W.....seek validation for leaving the M.
I believe it is very, very difficult to try to counsel a person who is unwilling to listen or cooperate. If you have to drag your S to the sessions, they don't want to be there b/c they don't care about saving the M.
You, however, could get individual counseling, if you feel that it is helping "you".
But if you and W decide to reconcile, "then" the two of you should attend, b/c you will definitely need the guidance of how to piece it back together. And, she should be willing to go by then.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
