His misery is NOT related to you, although it may feel like that and he may make out that your the cause of it but the truth is that his misery is with HIMSELF because he's so confused and has no idea what he wants. If he can blame his feelings on you and your M then that means him walking away is the right decision & will make him happy, that isn't necessarily the case though & he'll realise that in his own time.
Keep on being happy & upbeat, do it for YOU!
Thank you for this great perspective. Yes, I agree-- he is in some way conflicted, but he has no imagination and can't believe that things could ever change. He thinks this is his only option, and his own experience with divorced parents tells him that it's not such a big deal.
What's been so hard about this is that just as I am addressing the anxiety and depression that have impacted my life for years, I must do that without the support of my spouse, or his family and friends whom I have become so close to in the last 8 years. And I have to do that healing while also learning to be a single parent, and deal with the reality of my new situation.
And yet, I am doing all that-- reconnecting with old friends, healing my relationship with my own family, learning how strong and resilient I actually am. That feels great and allows me to cut myself some slack for not becoming a completely new, perfect person overnight.
