I am sorry I have no advice for you. But I wanted to say that I understand completely how you feel. H is doing the same thing to me and I don't know how to enforce this without coming across as using the kids in a "game"

Turning it over to God, as I really have no answers.

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction