S7 was bawling this evening. I tried to listen and console, but he said he wanted to call his dad. So he did. And he told him how he feels and how much he misses him being at home.
H said, "I'm going to work on getting you another day in the week."
I re-emphasized to H, later, that I am not okay with that. We had this conversation LAST WEEK. I said, "I think you need to pick the life you want and own it."
He wrote, "That's f--ked up. The life I chose to live is to leave you - NOT THE KIDS"
Guys, what do I do to get back on track? What specific steps, if any, do I take to stop this current spiraling and go "dark"? Do I just do it? Just show through my actions? I DO NOT want to fight over the kids. I don't want to fight at all. But I DO want him to understand that this is the path he's chosen and that he can't have his cake and eat it, too. I desperately need a break.
Maybe I shouldn't have let S7 call him. Maybe I shouldn't have responded about the extra day. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything at all.
This is out of CONTROL now.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
