I would bristle at the word "permission" - what you need to achieve is collaboration on what the kids are doing, and communication about ideas, and agreement about who gets them when and takes them where. She's still their parent and will not react well to being told she has to ask your permission before parenting them on her time.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
