Believe none of what she says and half of what she does. Have NO EXPECTATIONS. Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
You are on moderation right now on the forum. SO post in small frequent posts until you get off of it.
Your W is giving you a GIFT. THE GIFT OF TIME.
USE it wisely.
Knowledge is Power
I am trying to get some advice on my situation. It seems some of the other boards are filled with people whose marriages ultimately failed. I just don't want that for me. Even though I have been told over and over by MC's, IC'S, friends the divorce coach you name it this is what they say :
you two have been caught up in this twisted, unhealthy dynamic for so many years (bickering back and forth, control issues, mean-spiritedness, each of you fighting for your "inch of ground" on every issue) that it's not really HER you are missing. It's the sick, unhealthy DYNAMIC that you can't let go of.
That explains why you rush to see every call, voice mail, text, whatever. You can't seem to live an ordinary life without the drama that you BOTH create.
Until you do some deep soul-searching and self-reflection to discover why you are so addicted to this poisonous relationship and these very unhealthy interactions, this will go on and on. Why do you crave negative attention from her? Is it because ANY attention is better than NO attention?
Normal relationships do not look like this. At all.
W 53 H 51, S 16, S 21 33 years M 28 DD 3 Feb 11, 2014 S21 and His Fiancée move in with us 8/14 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...965#Post2477965
