I'm in, Wife's Out - Pt. Two

[trc2009]

Also, EA confirmed but denied. She's been "talking" to her friend about 3-4 times per week. Mainly texting. She claims they're just friends and that I have nothing to worry about. I don't have to worry about a PA because he is literally several states away. To quote her, "it's just nice to be able to talk to someone and feel relaxed and just joke around."

Mentioned this to my IC and she summed it up pretty well. She said chances are my W does see this as innocent because she is looking for ANYONE that will make her feel better. But she said rarely does it work both ways. Typically, just because one see's it as innocent, the other perceives this as flirting when it involves members of the opposite sex. Especially on the male side of things.

I asked her if that is classified as an EA. She said yes because my W would rather have playful, flirty conversations with another guy than me. IC asked me if that's enough for me to end my M. I said absolutely not because W has said that I shouldn't feel threatened about it. Plus, my pride comes after the ability to save my marriage and family. She said, then I shouldn't worry about it because there is nothing I can do about it.

Which completely consistent with what I've learned here. I honestly have had that conversation w/ wife one time in the last month and a half.

W doesn't see it as an EA, but it is. Nothing I can do about it so I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. I'm living with her, he is not. She's married to me. He is not. We have kids together, they do not.

Just wanted to put that out there. Completely forgot to mention it in my update. But it's important. EA/PA's answer so many questions when being married to a WAS.