Wants to leave again after a month!!!

[DFE]

slow_it_down I know exactly what you mean. I often feel like a doormat as well. I know all those around me think the same thing. My H's own mother told me today to just kick him to the curb and not shed a single tear for him.

I feel like if everyone gave up on their marriage when they got tired of it then nobody would stay married. To me it's work but I don't know how much more I have left in me. I can do ALL the work it takes with him in the house. Once he leaves I need to learn to detach and move on. He has been holding me hostage in a way for years.

I have lived in fear of him leaving me for years and I just need stability. I think I need to start with the agreement with him. There are things he has asked for in the past that he may get in this agreement that may make him feel whole. He needs to be happy with himself before he can make me happy.

I am so happy to hear that your husband is back. Please cherish him even when times are tough. I am so full of regret and swore that this time I would be different. That we wouldn't fight over the small things. That didn't happen. I thank you for your insight. It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone out here.