She informed me yesterday that she was going out tonight and staying at her folks instead of coming home. Obviously she is meeting up with OM. She told me on the DB conversation that she has pushed him back to just " being a friend". It turns out he has R issues as well. They seem to be each other's OM/OW right now. When she told me about tonight and not coming home, I DB/180 as best I could and responded with a simple " oh, ok". And left it. She followed up with " I just wanted you to know so you didnt worry about me" I thanked her and appreciated her consideration. And didn't say anything further. I have determined I am addicted to watching her Facebook account...I am still too attached to fully let go. I still do it knowing it does no good. I have gotten better, but I still succumb to it during the day. I am fairly decent @ doing 180's around her right now while home or out and about. One of the hardest things right now is that we share so many common evening interests, she invites me to share them with her. I am not quite able to say no right now. I fear not accepting the invite pushes her away or leaves a hurt feeling that she thinks the OM could fill.
Still determined, I love her and our marriage to give up. But I underestimated the emotional toll/fortitude it would require.
Me-39 W-39 M-2 T-7 BD 3/31/2014 Still living together
