Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[Upwards]

I think you do two things....1) what you've been doing, because that's working

Yep I can do that have fun, laugh, connect but also space, listen & validate.

2) GAL! You're life is not on hold...keep working on you, do things that make you happy, make some new friends, call some old ones, etc.

Yeh i'm trying to keep GAL and working on things I want to do, been very busy in the past couple of weeks decorating and doing jobs in the house as its going up for sale on Tuesday so thats been my "GAL" in a way as it will allow me to move forwards in my new life - once its on the market then I can get back to focusing on ME!

there's not really anything "actionable" at this point in time.

Yeh that makes sense, I feel like the way things are at the moment we're getting on better than we have in a long long time and I dont want to jepardise that as its clearly having a positive effect on H's feelings and I feel much better too. There is no stress or pressure its just nice to be "normal" and enjoy each others company even if we're not in a R at the moment.

I know H likes the way things are going & is beginning to see a future for us and from what he said he was thinking last night about cutting contact with OW anyway so I think/hope this will happen naturally when he's ready, I just hope he doesn't wait too long!