I'M BACKKKKKKKKKKK

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Is this the END?

He has said he wants a divorce and that he is DONE DONE DONE!!!

we went back and forth on email fighting like two enemies. I finally sent him one last email saying listen I am not your enemy. I will always love you no matter what happens. You will always have a special place in my heart. Please give me a little time to come up with options to split our assets and we can do this amicably.

He came upstairs and shook my hand and said I don't want to fight. We have made a decision and lets move forward with it. He tried talking to me later last night but I told him I wasn't in the proper state of mind to speak about it right now. (I was sobbing like a child)

So now what? He wants to know how we are going to do this and I have no answers. Attorney's will make us lose everything. If I go that route he wants custody of the kids as well. He wants 50 percent of everything. EVERYTHING. This is a new him but he has come to his boiling point.

So last night I came down and said if its ok we will talk tomorrow. I gave him a hug and he kissed me on the cheek. I then went to bed. I came down to the couch where he was sleeping at around 5 am and asked if I could lay next to him. I had heard noises all night. Turns out it was him walking around. He held me while I laid my head on his chest. I slept. I wanted to weep.

Now what do I do? I have two ideas but need opinions.

I think I have brought myself down in his eyes too many times asking him to work on this marriage. He came back on his own this time but it's only been a month. I can just say here this is what we have. let's sell the house, continue to work together in our business, and you move out.

OR

I can tell him to build the basement like he has been wanting to. Build his man cave instead of the money he will spend on an apartment rental. He can spend his time there if that's what he chooses and can sleep in the spare bedroom upstairs or wherever he wants. I will stay out of his way. I think it's important for him to be here for me and for the kids. It will save us money. It will keep him in his home of comfort. He told me when he came back last time that leaving is the hardest thing he has ever had to do. How can I let him go again?

I know I need to open up the cage doors and I will. But do I give him an option to also stay in the house or just go along with him leaving and call this over? Once he is gone I am done trying. I can't take the pain anymore of him going and coming.

We are to leave for vacation with friends next week. We have bought tickets. He plans on going. How can I still go? What to do? please tell me. Give me your opinions. I love him but also realize how much work we need to do. I know our relationship hasn't been perfect but in my heart I don't feel we have done the work to repair it. Is that my delusion?

Experts, newcomers, all please help. Please give me advise and help me through today.