KdogGS Journey Part V- Settlement

[KdogGS]

I have owned the home since July of 2013. Both of our names are on the deed and the mortgage though. If she were honest with herself, she would admit she would never have been in a position to be a homeowner on her own. Also, she's stated about 4 times since BD that taking over the house payments would put her in a big financial bind. Apparently trying to guilt me about this predicament I've put her in

We purchased this house about 5 months after selling the first house I had purchased before we were even engaged. I put down $18,000 on that one, and proceeds from the sale of the house were about $31,000. Where it gets sticky is I took that $31,000 and put it in our joint checking account (only checking we had, we never did separate accounts) so my lawyer says they could argue my intent was to add that to the community property. Aren't laws awesome. If my W were honest with herself, she would admit she had nothing to do with the $18,000 I put down on the first house. In my proposed settlement I proposed awarding her her half of the downpayment on this house which was $26k. So I would be paying her $13,000. Her original settlement to me included no payout of the equity in our current home, with her just taking the house/furniture and me moving out to who knows where along with my dog who is a German Shepherd, barring me from most apartments due to weight/breed. Renting a house comparable to mine now would not be financially viable for me since the rent would be about $4-500 more than my mortgage from comps I've seen.

I've been living in this house since August after the renovations were complete. The majority of her stuff is already gone from when her parents helped her move out Sept 9th. I have paid the mortgage, property tax, and insurance on my own since November with no financial help from her. I have also maintained the house, the yard and everything associated with it. I find it odd she thinks that she can just come and take over with no payout, but then again, she's never really lived in the real world. Mommy and Daddy finance everything about her lifestyle which she couldn't afford on her own. And to some extent, I'm guilty of the same since we commingled all funds. I had no idea this situation would ever arise of course.

I realize some of that sounds snotty, I've still done my best to act with class, honor and dignity in all matters towards her. It's hard for me to reconcile this alien that possesses her was once my W.