new here. is DB even worth it?

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for the most part he still acts quite grumpy around me, even when my attitude is upbeat, as if just the thought of being around me--even if I am happy-- makes him miserable.

His misery is NOT related to you, although it may feel like that and he may make out that your the cause of it but the truth is that his misery is with HIMSELF because he's so confused and has no idea what he wants. If he can blame his feelings on you and your M then that means him walking away is the right decision & will make him happy, that isn't necessarily the case though & he'll realise that in his own time.

Keep on being happy & upbeat, do it for YOU!

Am I supposed to offer?? Doing a 180 would mean NOT offering, and putting my own plans and time first. But I can't tell if that makes him resentful or not? I am so confused as to the right thing to do.

You can't do things based on his reaction! We ALL do that in the beginning because we are so desperate not the make the situation any worse so please don't take this as a criticism but the quicker you stop worrying about his feelings the better it will be for you - he isn't worrying about your feelings right now is he so you need to do that & protect yourself.

Have you read the Divorce Remedy? What have you been doing for YOU to get yourself a life? You need to be be the best you that you can be, be attractive and confident, show your H what he's walking away from but most importantly do it for yourself so you can get through this regardless of what happens in your M.

Right now it seems impossible, I was there not long ago myself, but it is possible and it has AMAZING results for your confidence and self-esteem if you listen to the advice of the wonderful people here good luck, keep up the good work!