I am struggling managing my emotions when dealing with my Ex and have real doubts about how I should interact with her. Lately she has been doing something that bugs me and I would like some advice on how to handle it.
Several times over the last month she has called and asked to talk to the kids. Then the kids ask me "Are we doing anything on XXX day". If we don't have specific plans, my exW makes plans with them without talking to me about it.
Tonight, I told D14 that her mom needs to talk to me, let me know what plans are and ask my permission. When she is staying with me, I am the parent.
I get the impression that my Ex wants D14 to babysit one of her boyfriends kids while they go out. I don't want D14 to be involved in my ex's dating life. But, mostly I resent the disrespect of making plans without asking my permission, or telling me what the plans are.
Do I just ignore this behavior regardless of how it bugs me? Do I tell D14 that until I am given the details of what she is doing and her mother asks my permission, then the answer is 'No she can't go'. Are there other options?
