(((3b))) I don't know the right answer either but I am a big believer in following your gut when it comes to your kids. As long as you are able to maintain distance and you are not being set back by continuing things as is. If things progress in the direction where h has a more permanent place with furniture then new arrangements need to be nade. I can see how it would be confusing to little guys seeing dad move from place to place.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15