Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[jp787]

maybe I could say something like "you do know that me & you can never move forwards together until you cut contact with her"

I would try to stick with an "I" statement.

I would try to wait for him to start a conversation that revolves around your relationship. When that happens, then maybe state “I do want a relationship with you. I need trust and part of that for me is no contact with OW.”