So H told me yesterday once he is done dealing with work situation of him fighting to keep his job he wants a divorce. He said that we are acting separated last few weeks as he has been in spare room for 4 months, and I have been acting distant. I am thinking I did a little over kill on last resort if he did not like the distance. How can he expect there to be no distance when he is in spare room, and won't hug or kiss me? He still is doing his fake sleep walking to get sex, but I cut him off as I don't know where he has been. I cannot believe this whole time he cannot approach me awake and say I want to make love, he has to fake sleep walk for 5 months....bizarre!

He still is in denial about OW. But if he did come out work would fire both of them, as they were shown the policy no supervisor is to have relations with subordinate. He scared me yesterday when he said he won't leave the house and I cannot make him. I never thought that he would want the house. I bet he wants the OW and her mom (she lives with her mom) to move in here with the girls.

He keeps saying he wants a divorce and wants us to be friends, but then he has excuses for why not to divorce. The only time things were good the last 5 months is the 3 weeks that OW went back to her boyfriend.

I am hanging in there, because I love him - whoever he is for the moment. He also does not seem mentally ok, and I don't want me kids around that or his friends that are almost 50 and party and act like they are 20 in college. UGH!!

Any advice would be great!!!