not sure how far gone we are...

[sandi2]

Which type of diabetes do you have and how many years have you had it?

My D was diagnosed with very brittle Type I when she was a kid, and it has been a rough road. Now my H has Type 2.... along with other health problems.

My D and H are two of a kind. Neither take care of themselves. It is the most frustrating thing I have ever had to live with. My D is older than you. She is experiencing a lot of pain now b/c of not putting her health as top priority.

So I can kind of see from both your POV and your W's. Were you a diabetic when you met W?

I have learned diabetics are more judged by people (even medical professionals) than any other disease I know about......including aides. At the time my D first got it, the doctor said they knew less about it than all the other diseases. But medical science has come a long way since then.

The nursing staff would say cruel things to my daughter. I was always shocked to see how people in general thought if you were in the hospital....then you did something to "deserve" it. I could write a book about the terrible things that has been said and done to my D over the years. Most of it was out of people's ignorance. I believe the public is getting more knowledgable on the subject......but some just aren't interested until it affects someone close.

Some doctors told my D that depression often kept company with diabetics. And the longer your diabetes is not controlled, the worse the depression.

I tell you these things just to let you know that I understand a little of what you are dealing with. It does affect a MR. It affected our entire family. My D has been M four times b/c the S could not handle the stress she,and the effects of her disease, put on the R. So, yes you need to look at this very seriously!

If your W has never had much physical problems herself, it may be difficult for her to understand your health challenges. But even if she has a compassionate nature, it does get emotionally exhausting when the diabetic will not help himself.

I want to encourage you to really focus on getting help for the depression. IC may help, but realistically, it will call for AD meds. But you've got to do it before you are able to tackle anything else. I won't talk to you about diet and exercise, b/c I'm sure you hear it enough.

Hope you will post every day!