Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[Upwards]

I agree with what you are saying, but there's a fine line there. I certainly wouldn't say "stop seeing OW"....but I would say, "if you want to pursue a relationship with me, the first step is NC with OW."

Thats basically what I said last time & he didnt want to stop seeing her as he didnt think we had a future so he couldnt see what it would achieve as in his mind she was nothing serious anyway.

Now his feelings seem to be shifting as he's reduced contact with her i'm hoping he'll see that its for the best, maybe I could say something like "you do know that me & you can never move forwards together until you cut contact with her" or something like that so then i'm not giving an ultimatum but i'm clear on the boundary?