There are two main reasons why I have left Sunday family time in place: (1) the kids enjoy getting to spend time with us and (2) if we stop I will lose even more time with the kids. Sunday is the only day that I am not working or our day is not filled with kid activities (birthday parties/sports). I am not ready to give up even more time with them right now.
Originally Posted By: bluesgal
I don't understand why our H move away and don't want the kids to go to their new home. Why is this? My H REFUSES to have the kids where he is (loser friends basement). He is embarrassed and ashamed, but it's the ultimate reality of D. How do you feel about it?
My H does not want to tell them until he decides to definitely move forward with a D and when he has a permanent place. So far, both of our IC think that it is in the kids best interest to not know about the S. If we are able to R, H does not want the kids to have known about the S.
Even if we tried to explain it to the kids, S3 and S1 would have no idea what we are even talking about. They are way to young to understand. S5 may understand, but he is a super sensitive kid and my worrier. He is going to have a difficult time once he finds out.
While I could force H to take the kids to his place and to tell them about the separation to get him to understand the reality of D, I don't believe that it is in the kids best interest right now. I would prefer to let them just enjoy their childhood for as long as possible before shaking up their little world.
I know that I may be wrong, but my mommy instincts tell me that it is not time yet.
