I worry about the same thing. I have ugly moments of anger and bitterness and recognize immediately how awful it feels and how unhealthy it is.
I think awareness is the big key here. We know the options for paths we can choose to walk.
Our H are so unhealthy right now. I am getting better at deflecting the anger and not taking it personally. How are you handling those things?
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014