I agree with you that fear is maybe driving me a bit.
That part of the sitch you got right.
everything else is off a bit.
I have no children and my W has been paying her share of the bills and I am not funding her extra activities.
Just recently though she expressed that she was running low on money which I took as I would have to assume more of a percentage of the bills. I am not overly opposed to that idea but would like her to ask me instead of me just offering or paying the bills then telling her I paid them.
Our agreement after the S was for her to pay all the bills and I would transfer my share to her. This has worked well for 9 months but now that she is running low she has missed a couple due dates and asked me to pay them which I did.
None of this has ruined our credit score but I am getting concerned as we move forward.
My fear is she wants a D so we have to sell the house and she will have money again.
Some months back I explained that without fixing the house up some there probably wont be any "extra money" left over to pay off other marital debt. I could tell that was her plan back then by her reaction.
I will be fine if she does file but I wont like it. I know I will have to protect myself by any means possible and have been gearing up for this since about 2 months in.
Problem is I love her and once it turns into a business situation taking all feeling out of it.
She will be very upset because I believe she thinks that my eyes aren't wide open to this and I will roll over because of my feelings for her.
Unfortunately, although I love her dearly, when the time comes I think she wont know what hit her so to speak.
Maybe that is what is keeping me from totally detaching because by nature I am a kind hearted person but don't p**s me off.
I also have learned R skills in the process of becoming a man only a fool would leave. I just hate to think of my W even though she a WAW as a fool.
She says she is looking for a job daily. I have to believe her don't I? No good comes from calling her bluff on this. I know why she hasn't got a job but it is none of my business how she goes about her daily life.
Thank you for taking time to reply and anymore insight you or others have would be greatly appreciated.
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
