W seems calmer now. I did send her an email after speaking to my L. She cannot "force" the kids to go with her on custodial nights. If they choose to stay home with me, that is their prerogative. I have explained it and they understand that they may choose to go or to stay depending on what they have that night or how they feel. if they wish to be home, they may stay home.
I told W that I spoke with L and we'll try to mediate with just him at first and see if we can craft our future together with guidance and then hire a L for her to make sure its a fair deal for her. She agreed to this approach. We'll see what happens.
I told W that this is not ultimately what I would have chosen, but I accept her wishes to not be married anymore and I am moving in that direction.
Do you think it might be better if the L sent this information to your W?
You don't have to be the middle man. Let go of taking care of everyone.
Take care of you.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
