Hi Gabby, I agree! We do have a long way to go before its possible for it to work. He keeps trying to have these convo's that lead no where.... because he wants the insurance policy.
Bond, Im not going to disagree with you. I am stating that I have changed. I understand his MLC... He can have it. I don't know if I have the patience to "wait". In the meantime, I am leaving him alone, being patient ... at a distance. I wasn't pushing, he volunteered his comments. I see how you view my "I'm not waiting" as control. I did not say it for him to hear or to control HIM, its about me. I do respect his timeline & the position that he wants to "wait" until we get our finances in order. I said & agreed to it. Now that I have, he flipped his switch! He feels that I don't love him and have no desire for him, so whats the difference (in his mind). I reassured him as best I could without losing myself in the convo. He is all over the map!
He wants assurances.... while he "doesn't know". I assured that I loved him, always will, that I am not pressuring him out of his confusion, ^^^ this is not control!
Can someone please explain to me? How can he say he loves me, is attracted to me, misses our life, considers a future with me (marriage), can't replace me... but yet "don't know"? ..... What doesn't he know?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
