I see that he wants assurances from me despite his "i dunno" position.
I didn't "say" this... but have come to realize that My position is that I love/want him, but If he is incapable of meeting me in a place where we can compromise and do the work, then I am not interested. Inspite of all my love in the world.
I had also told him that I would have been happy in a life without money, as long as we were still able to love and make love, etc. That I would have even been happy being old and miserable together, like that old couple... just being together.. That I was not letting money dictate my feelings. He pointed out how that real estate agent is very wealthy but very lonely. I said, if I were her and someone offered me her financial position or true love. I know what I would pick.
He also mentioned how stupid the whole OW thing was...but, did not want to talk about it... I said neither do I!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)