I realize it's about control. In my xh's case it is also about money. He's a compulsive gambler. I stopped trying to understand him a long time ago. I just want to be left alone. Once the settlement is done there is no longer a reason for him to contact me. He hasn't seen the boys in over a year. He's a stranger to them. My oldest is almost eighteen and the younger one is not far behind. He clings to the last bit of control by insisting on delivering my support check each month instead of mailing it. That will end too. His wages will be garnished as part of the settlement. I realize that legal issues might come up in the future, but we will not have regular contact. I look forward to that day.
