So, riddle me this (from the post before that one):

Why does he pursue me when I withhold sex ... but he pursues HER when she puts out???

I need to understand the male psyche on that. Or is that only something a CHEATING male could answer?

M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014