WH, you and I have been at this about the same amount of time. Although our situations are completely different they both continue to deteriorate at a rapid pace. I understand the days of despondency when you ask yourself why you keep getting punished because of your h's actions. Friday was that day for me. I thought I had a final settlement only to get blindsided by a new condition of the agreement. Even though I ultimately agreed, with a new condition of my own, it all may fall apart. I'm sick of this. I hate that xh keeps finding ways to drag this out and control me. Your h seems to do the same. They both value money over and above anyone or anything which makes them impossible to negotiate with. We both need to end this as quickly as possible or we will never have peace. I'm really sorry for what you're going through.