My wishes to confront the OM were only in a non threatening way, more to show I am a real person, exist, and my family is real and important to me. But I totally agree it would be pointless. It would serve me for about 2 minutes, and then I would regret it. And it would be seen as controlling for sure. As I have been told, the WAW watches everything, and that would not be good for her to see
She already knows where I stand because of my little discussion yesterday. Totally agree I have turned the focus on her in the last week. Fighting to get the focus back on me.
I am trying to arrange sitting, getting out for some night activities. Friday night I had her watching the kids, and went out. I had fun, but really, she didn't ask one question about it. I know it's for me, not to expect a response from her. Just disheartening.
My short terms goals:
1)Continue to detach with zero extraneous texts not regarding kids this week 2)Exercise 5 times this week 3)Avoid any relationship discussions 4)Go out of the house twice this week 5)No snooping
We will see how these go, but should help me to work on myself and not focus on her.
Thanks for the comments. Always so refreshing to have someone's input
