When you put these words together, you are saying something. Maybe subconsciously, but think about this. Remember that it takes only one person to D. Most of the fine people on this board are really trying not to D, but many will end up or already are D'd. I have nothing but respect for the people on this board who are working very hard, perhaps in vain, to avoid D. Do not be quick to judge her "divorced girlfriend" for you may not know her story.
And the reason your W talks to enablers is because they listen to her without judgment.
Don't you wish your wife was as comfortable talking to you as she is her "divorced girlfriends/enablers". Perhaps we should be more like them.
Don't mean to come down on you hard, but I used to think this way too, and found that all that judgmental stuff wasn't getting me very far.
