Thanks Ye21 and zew..W said I am a sociopath too ..ill have to google that since i dont really know what it is. Tomorrow night she said she has dinner with a client ...i said when will you be home cause I might then go out for a bit. She says don't plan on it cause she will be out late. Well client dinners are only a couple hours so I know she's out after client meeting with OM or one of her divorced girlfriends/enablers ...really bums me out how she associates with them ..but again...nothing I can do about it.
Yes actually you can do something, NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO HER INSULTS , your self steem its low and you will doubt about who you are everysingle time, dont listen to those words.
Another thing you can and should do its stop asking her about what she does or when she is coming home, its pretty clear in the sand rules and LRT, go back to stick to those now, not tomorrow, now in this exact minute.
She doesnt come home? Dont give a f, do you make enough money? If you do and tou want to go out start planning your life like your W doesnt exists at all, hire a babysitter or leave the kids with your family members, you know why she is doing what she is doing? Because she has no complications, you are playing the non aceptance game and still doing things subscontiently to gain her back, well that doesnt work, you want to go out just do it, there are thousands of single parents out there who are able to live a life and have their kids well taking care so if they can do it why you cant? You want her to respect you? Well, when are you gonna start respecting yourself?
I know you are suffering and it hurts but lets do something for you because thats what you want not because it will have consequences with her, she is a human being let her realize her own consequences, you are not responsible of showing her that....
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
