For the last few weeks I finally started following the DB rules in earnest-- no contact except related to our daughter, no negative emotions, staying upbeat and positive, slowly getting a life. And feeling quite proud of myself.
But two things: for the most part he still acts quite grumpy around me, even when my attitude is upbeat, as if just the thought of being around me--even if I am happy-- makes him miserable.
But then there are other things too, like "double standard" kind of stuff, which was always an issue in our R. Today, he is working from (my) home because our baby sitter called in sick. It's his night to take care of her, which means he is supposed to relieve babysitter at 5, give D3 dinner, bath and put her to bed (in my home). I come home at 8:30. That is our established plan. He came over at 7 this morning, and on my way out asks, "what is your timing for tonight? Still 8:30?" I guess he is asking because he will be "on duty" with our D all day. He didn't ask me to come home early. But it seemed like that is what he wanted. (He can't come out and ask me but I thought he was being passive aggressive). Am I supposed to offer?? Doing a 180 would mean NOT offering, and putting my own plans and time first. But I can't tell if that makes him resentful or not? I am so confused as to the right thing to do.
