yes... this is an issue for me, as I know what has happened in the past on these types of issues. I know what to expect from him. This is the stuff that I would try to stand up to him and then get his opinion (not a full partner, not working as hard as him, made to feel guilt, etc) and then get reprimanded about it many times later. He would bring this stuff up later to remind me that this is what I did.... and he didn't. So yes, I do have the fear of how to tell him and yes, it is control.
I know I need to take back my control of me. I always had fear of hearing his "wrath" and reprimand and it be used against me. Here is the thing, I have stood up many times before, as I am now.... but HE doesn't accept. So, not really sure what I can do differently?
Another thought came over me on the weekend. Yes. I have allowed his rejection of me, assist in fuelling my own rejection. I need to really realize that I have FULL VALUE, and not push it down to suit/accomodate him regardless of his MLC crisis or not.
that really illustrate the problem a few of us see with your mediator who immediately saw something special and unique that you should entwine with the business. You are describing a codependent if not abusive relationship. You need to develop the strength to stand on your own two feet and state what you're planning, and let him have his feelings about it. The way to learn it is to do it.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
