It does make sense to have some resources handy though. We're all here reading DB, DR, 5LL, etc to work on ourselves but when the WAS/MLCer starts to come round we're supposed to hide the books. I've found books extremely helpful for me so I'd like to think there's something we can direct our spouses to, even if it's just a 'when the time is right' thing.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014