Unicorns, Big Foot, and the WAS...

[25yearsmlc]

sorry, but I'm still going to ask you to rethink this:

Re:calling it "my" house- he started doing it a few years ago whenever he was angry at me, then he did it as a joke whenever he wanted to tease me. He knows exactly what he's doing, and I literally asked him, last week, to stop doing it again. He's not stupid, so he clearly has a reason for it and is disregarding me in the process.

Ya, he's being a jerk, but he's going to push that button for the rest of your life, as long as you keep it in good working order. It's up to you to disable it. When the button stops working, he'll stop pushing it. Pavlov 101. Break the cycle.

And he loses 2 points for the birthday text. I didn't expect or want him to buy me anything, but a phone call would have been perfect. Birthdays are really important to me (everyone's birthday-not just mine. It's YOUR day to feel special.)

You're imposing your expectations and values on him. He didn't have to do anything. But he did. Even under the circumstances. It just wasn't up to your level of expectation, so you're slamming him. I think this is your hatchet to bury.

Just to add one thing here, is the SCOREKEEPING habit of many, including you right here^^^ above.

Lose the scorecard. It never helps a marriage. Ever.

Plus, the irony is that the spouse has their own scorecard and they measure things their own subjective way, as do we. On THEIR scorecards, we are usually way way behind. Hence the adage, Lose the scorecard.

My DB coach said that to me and I finally realize how mandatory it is to do, IF you want to be happy.

But decide if you want to be happy, or you want to be "right".