Ok so we spent most of today together as it was mothers day. I had bought her flowers and chocolates( for the boys to give her) and we went out for dinner. Although the day went well in terms of no relationship talk it did get difficult just before she left. I am going away on a business trip from tomorrow for 4 days and she will have the boys. Bear in mind that this is the first time for weeks that she will have them overnight, especially for this length of time. I have suggested to her that she stays here rather than take the boys to hers. Their school is 5 minutes walk from here and they are settled at home now ( especially my eldest S9) I didn't think she would agree but she has, she went on today saying that the neighbours ( one nosey one in particular) would be thinking she was back as she will be here. So based on her agreement to stay here and the fact that I will be away I felt we should just agree some basic rules regarding how the children are handled. I have been working hard for weeks to establish boundaries with the boys and some disciplines etc regarding acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. I truly believe and my W agrees that we have been to soft and laid back as parents, me much more so than her. So I have managed to establish some rules that the boys are getting used to and are responding to. Its a slow process but it is beginning to work. I wanted to ensure that this continues while I am gone and we had a conversation about the structure etc today. But for some reason after it things went a little pear shaped. I can't even recall what she said but it really annoyed me considering the effort I had put in to make her Mothers Day special and I told her so. I told her it was unacceptable for her to act disrespectful towards me considering all I had done and that I wouldn't be doing anything more. A mistake I'm sure but things got a bit uncomfortable for a while before it calmed down. She did thank me as she was leaving saying ' I was going to thankyou when I was going anyway' I am still confused as to what she means by 99% sure about our marriage being over and it is bugging me, what does that mean??
