I found the TED Talks for Amy Cuddy, Shawn Anchor and Brene Brown. HIGHLY recommended. Almost life changing ideas. Very powerful.

I have had a problem the past few years with Low T. I asked the Doc if environmental factors can also make that issue worse. My cortisol levels and T levels have been out of whack for some time now. I'm finding that my latest measurements are improving. Even with Therapy, my levels where having issues the past couple of years. As it turns out, this very idea is shown to be a problem by Cuddy. Being in a "one down" position for as many years as I have allowed has actually impacted my health. I find this shocking, but this gives me more reason to continue to improve myself and be assertive to my W within our R. I found through this process, we still have to deal with each other. So I have to create a healthy place for myself.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14