Redefining Hope and Success

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Bug. I expect a lot from myself. I feel like I should learn the lesson once and not make the same mistake again.

Many of us here have had that same issue. No one is perfect and without flaws.

I just posted about something similar to BrooklynMom.

Believing in our worth is so crucial to this process. No one can give that to us but once we believe it, no one can take it away.

Challenge that voice every time it starts telling you you're not enough.

I should not have snooped. I knew I would get hurt but I did it anyway.

But you did and now it's in the past. Let it be there. Maybe you needed to see what you saw to bring you to a new understanding.

I should not have gotten hurt. I knew he was in an A but I let it hurt anyway. [/quote}
Of course it hurt. You're human and you're a loving person. Why do you think you shouldn't have been hurt.

It's what you do with that hurt/anger that matters.

[quote] I should have sat down right after discovery and practiced some breathing until I put it all into perspective but instead I called and cried to a friend at 3 am.

You must be a great friend to have a friend you can call at 0300!

Remember the breathing next time. Practice, practice, practice.

I should have laughed off that Beelzabub reference but instead I started questioning if I am still doing anything that would make him see me that way.

Think about who this is coming from.

As I've said before, don't go to the hardware store looking for bread.

I should never have let myself start having expectations when he has been nice these past few weeks.

You'll bet better at it, sometimes we need to have the punch in the gut a few times.

I have learned to be patient with other people. I need to figure out how to extend the same courtesy to myself. It's so much harder.

Extending that to yourself actually makes it easier to do with others and that in turn makes our lives easier.

You can do this.