I sat there through the conversation thinking that he finally showed me his colors. I now truly feel like I belong here. All I could think was to mentally thank him for showing me his MLC. It gave me the slightest bit of comfort to know that it isn't / wasn't me. Like you (Job) said a while back when I posted about his past loving posts on FB..."What you've read reconfirms that you and your marriage are not the problem. This is all about him and he has a journey to make to grow up." Change read to heard.

I 100% agree with the dating. I am not going to. I know it would just make him feel more justified in his world.


Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month