I agree w/Bea. It's good to teach them how to do laundry so that if something happens and the laundry doesn't get done, they can do their own and not get into an argument w/their father. Also, showing them some basic skills for cooking is helpful as well.

These small and yet useful skills will help them as they grow up and get out on their own, i.e., they don't have to come back to mom's to get their laundry done or rely on anyone else to do it for them.

As for your h not doing laundry...well, we all know he can't think about such things now. He's got money on the brain. LOL!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.