Yes bug. I decided to file because its best for me and my kids. We can't live like this and sustain ourselves financially and she has said she is not coming home.

Additionally, I would like to be a H again someday but I cannot move forward with healing and then moving on if we stay M like this. No one will want to be with me that way. So if she's no coming home ans she does not want to be M then yes I want a divorce.

So I filed because given the best information I have to work with this is the only clear way I have to move forward and eventually lead the life I want to with my kids.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14