Barry, they are very strange. All you can do is shake your head.
Two days ago, my H sent me an email in which he called me stupid, despicable, childish and insane. Yep, all in one email. Maybe an hour later I get a text from him asking ever so cordially if I'd mind switching one of his upcoming nights with the kids. (I felt like the AFLAC duck trying to understand Yogi Berra.)
I think the vets above are right, though . . . you don't seem to be living your life for YOU yet. It took a few times of others telling me point blank, this is your reality right now. Your H does not want to be married to you" to really get it. You have to live the life that you actually have. Drop the expectations, and you will be disappointed/perplexed a lot less often.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
